People. Can’t live with em, can’t live without em! It can be like this sometimes can’t it? The people we have around us can be our greatest joy or greatest stress. Think of all of those influences. This is why I tell our clients to surround yourself with those you want to be like. Life is short right? Why spend time with those who want to talk down your attempts at growth? This is especially true when you are looking to change your life in some way from a health perspective.
If you keep hanging out with those who undermine your attempts to change because they are too scared of that process themselves and still want to have company in their misery, then recognise it and create the space you need. Why not aim to be the person that they end up saying they want to surround themselves with when they are ready to ask the big questions and start answering them with action. Let’s face it: only those who truly love you will support your efforts at change no matter how it makes them feel.
How good is it when you have multiple options of friends to go walking with because they too want to invest in themselves and their health because they know and respect the principle of delayed gratification? How inspiring is it when your friends commit to a fun run or community event and put in the hard yards to get to that start line and accomplish something great?
It has been said that you are the average of the main 6 or 7 people you hang out with. It might be worth checking the references of those you currently invest your most precious commodity with. If you are easily influenced then may be it is wise to have those whom you admire and want to be like as your default gang because the side effects are likely to be good. I am not saying to dump all your negative friends but at the risk of sounding soap boxy, (which by the way is an occupational hazzard when your job is behaviour change!) BE the change you want to see in the world.
How cool will it be when you are the one that others seek out to soak up some of the cool stuff you put out!
Guru has a nice ring to it.